The Self-Esteem Extreme

April 22, 2008 — 2 Comments

Beginning in the early 1980s, child development specialists encouraged parents to build their children’s self-esteem by giving them lavish amounts of praise. The only problem, writes Sharon Jayson in USA Today, is that “life will burst your self-esteem bubble.” Jayson reports that the self-esteem movement created an environment that protected children from failure, consequently keeping them from learning some very basic life skills and lessons essential to their development.

Much of the self-esteem movement has taught kids to be self-centered, not others-centered. You know what really fills a child’s soul with contentment? It’s knowing what their gifts are, having them refined by you and then using them to benefit others. It’s not all about them. Kids wrapped up in themselves make small packages indeed.

- Bryan Davis

Jason Hardin

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Jason lives in central Ohio with his wife (Shelly), three daughters, and a vicious miniature Yorkie. He’s been blessed to work with the Laurel Canyon church of Christ since 2007. Jason is the author of Boot Camp, Hard Core, and Hello, I’m Your Bible. He enjoys photography, baseball, and Venti cups of coffee.
  • http://imreadybooks.com Rodrigo Lagdameo

    Very good point about being “others-centered” which applies not only to kids but to adults as well.

  • http://www.yeahyeahoutloud.com Kathy Carpenter

    Therefore we at YEAH YEAH Out Loud believe in “growing” self-esteem in young children. Helping the child realize the “cheer” leader lies within; is the core of YYOL.

    The picture book story of Hur-Ray encouraging Kiddazy to grow into a flower and “bloom” with a YYOL face (just like Hur-Ray’s) confirms that it is only by cheering on others, the blossoming of Kiddazy’s own self-esteem, and YYOL actualized.

    Empowering kids to discover their inner “cheer” leader!