I’ve noticed a disturbing trend. There are a few posts here at InGodsImage.com that encourage the careful and responsible use of websites like Facebook:
- Ten Facebook Rules for Married Couples
- Ten Facebook Rules for Kids
- Facebook and the Road to Divorce
- No Secrets in Marriage
- God Watches You Google
As a result, people run across these posts when they use a search engine like Google. The interesting thing is, we leave digital footprints everywhere we go online. Everywhere. We. Go. That includes this site. In the interest of research and curiosity, I’ll occasionally scan through the recent search engine terms that led people to InGodsImage.com. Here’s where the disturbing trend comes into play. Take a look at some of the recent search terms that have led people to one of the above posts:
husband hides facebook
facebook alone with someone of the opposite sex
can facebook come between couples?
should spouses be friends on facebook?
she won’t give me her facebook password
sharing facebook password marriage
spouse as facebook friend
has no pictures of spouse on facebook
facebook relationship wife
facebook friends with your spouse?
should you have your wifes facebook password?
facebook guidelines for couples
facebook rules for married people
is facebook healthy for married people?
should married people use facebook
husband facebook won’t say he’s married
couples and facebook issues
commenting on a married persons facebook
boundaries for couples on facebook
why does spouse on facebook bother me
husband spends too much time on facebook
uncomfortable with spouse’s facebook
can my wife hide facebook photos?
how to get a facebook password wife
wife on facebook for hours every night
wife hiding conversations on facebook
hiding facebook from your partner
my wife not sharing facebook password
why does spouse chatting on facebook bother me
how to crack a spouse’s password in facebook
Those are real searches of real people struggling with what certainly appear to be real problems—problems of integrity, honesty, faithfulness, and character.
Husbands, your heavenly Father commands you to love your wife as you love yourself (Ephesians 5:33). That command applies to your actions online. Your Facebook profile isn’t worth a ruptured marriage. If you can’t love your wife as you love yourself and maintain a presence on Facebook, better to delete your Facebook account than to fail your Creator and your spouse. “Love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). “Live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered” (1 Peter 3:7).
Wives, almighty God commands you to respect your husband (Ephesians 5:33). That command applies to your actions online. Your Facebook profile isn’t worth a broken marriage. If you can’t serve as “a helper fit for your husband” (Genesis 2:20) and maintain a presence on Facebook, better to delete your Facebook account than to fail your Creator and your spouse. “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life” (Proverbs 31:10-12).
Meditate on those God-breathed words. Love. Understanding. Honor. Trust. Don’t let something as trivial as Facebook defile your integrity, discredit your character, destroy your marriage, demean your vows, and dishonor your Father who is in heaven.