Say you come home from a tough day at the office and are immediately greeted by your spouse who is not too happy with you. She may start taking verbal swipes and your first reaction might be to get angry, loud and defensive. Squelch that desire and, instead, sit down and hear her out. It may take a little self-control, but just listen.
Oftentimes, the real reason for her outburst is an emotional build-up from a lot of different situations. Do your best to let her know you understand what she is saying and then see if the two of you can arrive at a solution for her frustration. You may find that handling things in this manner can actually make your wife feel closer to you.
Remember, in these situations it isn’t always necessary to be right. A loving response is always the highest priority.